Stranger danger!

So, “stranger danger” can’t really be in my vocabulary anymore.

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Remember when you were young, and your parents told you not to talk to strangers?
Well, that comes with a lot of terms and conditions, the biggest one being: Traveling.
P.S. I’m not talking about those creepy strangers in white vans (you should definitely fear them), I mean those people that you act shy around because you don’t really know them.

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I mean, seriously, though, it’s crazy how many strangers I’ve spoken to while living here in Chile.
And, for me, even just talking to people I know is sometimes difficult, but living here for 3 months has taught me that I don’t have to be so scared because people are just people and they’re not all scary.
I’ve realized that the fear I had about talking to people was stupid; I learned to just talk to people without being scared or fear of being judged.

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When I first got here, I was so nervous to meet my host-family (I thought they would hate me) and I was not at all confident in my Spanish (this didn’t help my nervousness).
But, after living here for 3 months, I’ve started to really get to know my host-family (they’re actually really nice) and I started to let the nerves go and start speaking to them and strangers in Spanish.
And, in doing those things, I’ve started to feel so much more confident when speaking to stranger and I’ve learned so much more Spanish.

At first, I was so scared of being judged for my accent in Spanish that I would barely even speak in a day. But, after a while, I started saying small sentences each day and eventually worked up the courage to start having conversations in Spanish. And, now I can actually say that I can “fluently” speak Spanish (I use fluently loosely because I still stumble with certain words, but for the most part, I can hold a successful conversation).

After getting over my fear of speaking to strangers, I had to get over my fear of being judged for my accent.
And, it hasn’t been easy, but definitely worth it because now, I can say that:
-I am no longer afraid to speak to strangers.
AND
-I can officially speak 3 languages (some much better than others, but I can still understand and be understood in all 3).

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So, all this to say that, if you ever fear public speaking (or just speaking to strangers), just remember the cliche sentence:

Nothing good ever comes from your comfort zone,
stepping out is the best decision you will ever make!

And, if you too are trying to learn a new language, here’s my best tip for you:

Learning a completely new language isn’t possible overnight,
it takes a lot of humiliation, work, perseverance and courage.

Those two things might be very difficult and seemingly impossible tasks, but, they are always worth working toward because they could change your life in so many ways.

So, next time you are faced with one of these situations, remember:

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Work towards your dreams everyday!
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You don’t always have to be brave; just persevere through the tough obstacles you will face on your journey to the top!
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You have to work towards your dreams everyday, no matter what!
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After it all, you will be so thankful for everything you’ve accomplished!

 

Thanks for reading!
I hope this post inspired you to go conquer your dreams!

-LiveForAdventure! 🙂

Dear younger me,

          Hey you! I know you think that your life’s not going super great right now, and I wish I could tell you all the mistakes I’ve made, all the mistakes you will make, all the pain you will feel and just everything to help you have a perfect life & be one step ahead.
I would tell you how everything’s going to turn out. I would tell you exactly what to do. I would tell you that your life is never going to be perfect. I would tell you that you are always going to be different. I would tell you how to live your perfect and best life.

I would give you all the answers you want to hear!

But, to be honest, I still don’t have all the answers.
Instead, I’m just going to tell you to never be afraid; just be you and make your life decisions to the best of your abilities and knowledge because that will make you happy and it will create a life you will be proud of. If you make your own decisions, you will create your life and no one else’s and that will make you proud and happy.

There’s nothing I could tell you that will change your life because the decisions you make today will make the future you, YOU.
Life is a series of decisions we make and those decisions impact who we become; decisions are an important part of our life journey. Stop trying to create the perfect life for yourself, just start winging it and making the decisions you think are best for you in this moment.

~Don’t be afraid to make choices because they are what make you unique and create an amazing life for yourself.~

I know that right now, you might think that you need all the answers so you don’t mess up, but let me tell you that whatever happens is not your fault.
Ya, sure it was your decision that led you here, but that doesn’t mean you made a mistake. Every decision you make will help you learn and make you better, which will help you make even better decisions in the future. Don’t let your past mistakes scare you from making great future decisions; you are making the decisions that you believe are right and those decisions will give you the life you deserve and have created for yourself. Don’t let life scare you, just keep living it one day at a time; and I promise, one day you’ll look back and wonder how you got here.
Every decision you make is leading you to a different situation that you don’t know anything about, so you can’t possibly know what to do, but don’t be scared. The unknown future doesn’t have to be scary, it can actually be quite exciting, just don’t stress!

~Your life is not a mistake.~
~The decisions you made to get here were not mistakes!~
~Every decision you make is a step forward, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the moment!~

I know, it might seem scary to have so much control over your life, but if you’re ever in a funk about making decisions, just remember to think about the life you want and deserve, and make your decisions based on that, because you know deep down what you really deserve and what you really want. 

REMEMBER:
You got this!
You can do it!
You are amazing!
Just look how far you’ve come; You’re doing great!

Okay, now that you know you’re doing great, stop looking back at how far you’ve come, it’s good encouragement but, you need to start looking at all the amazing things you have left to accomplish! Start making those amazing decisions!

Sincerely,

Future you, that realizes that her life turned out pretty GREAT!
Thank You for all your hard work and for never giving up! 🙂

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Thanks for reading!

Now it’s your turn: What would YOU tell your younger self?
(write it in the comments or post on your own blog: A Letter to Your Younger Self)


-LiveForAdventure! 🙂

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